The trick is nailing down exactly when your guy longs for steam-up-the-windows romantic sex
Your guy may also be prone to be hungry for some randy roughhousing before breakfast. “Levels of testosterone tend to be higher in the very early morning,” says Fisher. “He’s likely to wake up already turned on and feeling assertive.”
How to rock his world: When he’s flushed after a win or starts gloating about a mini success, bait him by slowly stripping off your clothes across the room – in his eye line but out of his reach. “Just looking at your naked body can further raise a man’s testosterone, feeding his desire,” says Fisher. Let him watch you touch your own erogenous zones, which will make him hot and give you satisfaction too.
When you’ve tortured him for a few minutes, let him get his hands on the championship prize: you. Then initiate a primal move that fuels his frisky craving. “Standing sex, where he holds you up against a wall with your legs wrapped around his lower back, gives him an animalistic challenge,” says Yvonne K. Fulbright, author of The Hot Guide to Safer Sex. Your man is in the aggressor role since he’s holding you up with his arms and lower bod, and he also gets the visual thrill of watching your breasts bounce during the act.
Kick it up a notch by letting yourself revel aloud about how hot he’s getting you or tell him a specific thing you want him to keep doing because it feels so good, suggests Fulbright. “Verbally boosting his ego can help build orgasmic intensity for you both.”
In fact, one of the biggest complaints among men is that women don’t touch them enough during sex, which is a common way of maintaining emotional closeness in a relationship, according to The Hite Report on Male Sexuality.
His mood clues: Women aren’t the only ones who desire slow-burn sexual intimacy
Surprisingly, men crave this type of intimacy after experiencing something new or unusual. “Having ine, which triggers lust and desire,” says Fisher. That’s why your dude may suddenly feel the urge to get superclose when you’re in a new locale, whether it’s diving into your hotel bed or snuggling under the stars on a camping trip.
Another lust trigger for slow, body-meshing sex is in the aftermath of something scary. “The novelty of a dangerous situation you’d see in a horror movie or after trying a slightly risky, adrenaline-fueled activity together can also feed dopamine levels and make him want to feel emotionally closer to you via sex,” says Fisher.
How to rock his world: Next time you try anything new, from rappelling down a mountain to seeing a spine-tingling flick together, take him home and introduce a sensual new move that feeds a mental and physical connection, like the Kama Sutra position Yab-Yum. Here’s how: Sitting in his lap face-to-face with your legs wrapped around each other’s back, you and your guy can gaze into each other’s eyes as your hands roam freely. All the while, your private parts press sensually against each other, furthering intimacy.
“This is an all-access position that allows him to see and touch your entire body,” says Fulbright. “And because it provides more direct stimulation of the clitoris, the woman is more likely to orgasm than in the missionary position.”
His mood clues: Chances are, if your guy’s been placating annoying relatives, wigging about finances or dealing with a demanding boss, stress is likely to make him crave low-maintenance sex (where all he has to do is unzip his fly, if that).